Life After Combat: Coping with Depression
Returning home from combat can be both joyful and challenging. It’s common to have mixed emotions during this time. But are sadness, guilt, or despair taking over your life? You might feel alone, as if no one understands what you’ve been through. Interacting with other people may seem like a huge effort; you’d rather stay home by yourself. Or you’re feeling lost, maybe even questioning whether life is worth living. Thoughts and emotions like these can be signs of depression. Depression is a real illness, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. No matter how bad you feel now, treatment can help you find relief.
What is depression?
Depression is more than having a bad day, or feeling “down” for a little while. It’s a mood disorder that involves feeling sad and hopeless for weeks or months at a time. It often starts when you’re faced with stressful life changes, such as being deployed or returning home from a combat tour. Big changes like these can be tough to adjust to, and it’s normal to feel sad or upset at first. These emotions should subside as you cope with the stress and get used to the changes. With depression, instead of going away, sadness and despair become a major part of your life. This makes it hard for you to function. Treatment is needed to bring balance back into your life.
Being in combat has put you under a lot of stress. You may be grieving for friends who died, or upset about changes that happened at home while you were away. You may feel guilty or sad about the war. And you may be coping with physical injuries that have caused major changes in your life. Issues like these can lead to depression. Depression can run in families. And it can be made worse by use of drugs, alcohol, or certain medicines. Whatever has happened to you, keep in mind that depression is not your fault. Don’t blame yourself. Instead, focus on changing your situation so you can start to feel better.
How depression affects your mood
If you are depressed, you feel unhappy, down, or sad most of the time. You lose interest in hobbies, activities, and people you used to enjoy. And you likely feel worthless, guilty, or hopeless. You may want to be left alone and withdraw from family and friends. You may also feel irritable with everyone around you. You may have thoughts of hurting or killing yourself.
How depression affects your body
Depression doesn’t only make you feel low. You may also feel bad physically. Depression can:
Drain your body of energy
Cause trouble with mental tasks such as remembering, concentrating, or making decisions
Make you nervous and jumpy
Cause problems falling or staying asleep, or lead you to sleep much more than normal
Change your appetite
Cause headaches, stomachaches, or other aches and pains
Treatment for depression
Though millions of people have depression, no one else is just like you. So you and your healthcare provider will need to work together to find the treatment that’s best for your needs. Antidepressant medicine and counseling are two common treatments for depression. The best treatment often involves a combination of both.
Antidepressants help relieve symptoms. It may take a few weeks for an antidepressant to start to improve your mood. If it doesn’t seem to be working, it may need more time. Or you may need to try more than one medicine or dosage before finding what works for you. Keep taking your pills every day as prescribed. Make sure your doctor knows how your medicine makes you feel. This way he or she can make adjustments as needed. Never change your dosage or stop taking your pills without talking to your doctor first. When the time comes to stop the medicine, antidepressants need to be stopped slowly to give your body time to adjust.
Counseling can be very effective in treating depression. This treatment is a powerful way to better understand your thoughts and feelings. Talking with a trained professional can make problems less overwhelming. It can help you work through issues in your life and your relationships. Therapy for depression is often done one-on-one. It may also be done in a group setting. Talk to your healthcare provider about the options available so you can choose the best one for you.
Take care of yourself
People with depression often lose the motivation to take care of themselves. This only makes problems worse. During treatment, make a point to:
Exercise. It’s a great way to take care of your body. And studies have shown that exercise helps fight depression. If you have an injury or special needs, talk to your healthcare provider about safe ways to exercise.
Avoid drugs and alcohol. These may ease the pain in the short term. But they’ll only make your problems worse in the long run.
Get support from your family and friends. Don’t shut out your loved ones. Tell family members and friends what they can do to help you. Keeping in contact with friends you served with can also make a big difference.
Get relief from stress. Ask your healthcare provider about relaxation exercises and techniques to help relieve stress.
Eat right. A balanced and healthy diet helps keep your body healthy.
Put off major decisions. Depression can cloud your judgment. So wait until you feel better before making major life decisions, such as changing jobs, moving, or getting married or divorced.
Stay involved in activities you enjoy. With depression, you may not feel like going out. You may not have the energy or interest to do things you used to like to do. But being active and involved really helps you beat depression. Instead of sitting at home, make an effort to get out and do something you enjoy.
You are not alone
Recovering from depression is a process. Don’t be discouraged if it takes some time to feel better, and don’t isolate yourself. That will only make you feel worse. Instead, make an effort to get out and take part in fun activities. Accept help from people who care about you. And talk openly with people you can trust. Not everyone will be able to relate to what you’ve been through in combat. Even so, they can listen and give support. Keeping in touch with friends from the military may be especially helpful. For more information and resources, visit the depression section of the Veterans Administration (VA) website at www.mentalhealth.va.gov/depression.asp.
If you’re thinking about hurting yourself
Are you feeling like you can’t go on? Remember, this will pass. There are many ways to ease this pain and manage the problems in your life. If you’re thinking about harming yourself or someone else, call your healthcare provider, your VA’s suicide prevention coordinator, or a friend or family member immediately, or go to the closest crisis walk in center or hospital emergency room. You can also visit www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/veterans or call 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) and press “1” to be routed to the Veterans Suicide Prevention Hotline.